Friday, 24 January 2014

Two Can (or rather can't) Play That Game

There is a massive issue in my house and it revolves around a concept that I would like to call 'playing'. Now I thought playing was supposed to be like a super ace thing that children should love doing. But in my household playing always starts off like this:

See how much fun we are having! 

All happy and lovely and children having loads of fun and just generally fab times all round. But within, and I swear this is no word of a lie, two minutes it ends up like this:

Weep sob scream and so on. 

Every single fricking time. It is driving me utterly bonkers. Why are my children incapable of playing nicely together? It baffles my brain. We can all be having loads of fun playing in their little playroom shops or tea parties or anything really. I leave the room to make a call or a cup of tea or even god forbid use the toilet (how very dare I!) and within the tinest amount of time there is screaming. Or crying. Or shouting. Generally all three. 

Granted they are only three and one. And the one year old is transpiring to be the most destructive of little boys and enjoys the odd hair pull. But please tell me at some point they will be able to calmly play a game without trying to kill each other? Is it a boy/girl thing? Is it a sibling thing? Why does this happen? And more importantly when the hell will it end? 

Another thing how come Erin is a joy at preschool and I know she plays dollies and football and all sorts. And evidently is a "great" (direct quote there) sharer. But she gets home and woe betide the baby if he wants to play with any random bit of tat she is playing with. She just kicks off. The other day the prized possession they both were in desperate need of was. Half a rubber. Not even a whole rubber. Half. Jeez. 

So please put my mind at rest. Please tell me there is some light at the end of the tunnel. And I will be able to wee at some point in the future without hearing a child scream. 

Occasionally we get on. 


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23 comments:

  1. This is a lovely post. They are still really young too - I don't have much advice to give, other than it will get better. Praise good behaviour and sharing, especially from your older daughter. That's all I can suggest, and it's pretty obvious! Xxx

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    1. Ah thanks. I'm thinking after the summer when they are both a bit older it will alllll calm down. Well I've for my fingers crossed it will! xxx

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  2. Haha oh dear! We are ok in our house but now my littlest is getting bigger, the games definitely are starting to end in tears a little more! x

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    1. I am thinking when he's walking it will be ok! At least then he can run away. Ha ha ha xxx

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  3. Ha ha ha fantastic post! Oh I can feel your pain. Why is it they fight over the silliest of things? I only have one at the mo but it's always the same when my friends and I friends get together with our kiddies. Hopefully it will improve as they get older! #theordinarymoments

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    1. Oh let's hope so. Erin fell out with my friends little girl today over something daft. It is relentless!!! xxx

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  4. Fantastic post! Mine are 7 and 3 and fight,a little. My husband says he and his brothers used to fight like crazy when they were little, but now they get on great as adults.

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    1. Fingers crossed for my two!!! There is some hope xxx

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  5. Ha ha - is it OK that I love that sobbing photo, and moreover, the fact that you took the time to take it?! My two get on well, which is totally unhelpful of me, I know. Boo's just turned 4 and Little Man's 16 months, so maybe the age gap is easier?! I'm certain it'll get better. though. Thanks for joining in with #TheThemeGame x

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    1. Babies crying atre hilarious. Fact! I am a bit mean but I had to take a piccy. It made me laugh so so much. When ethan is two erin will be four. I hope that is the time they will get on. Sob x

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  6. Umm, I'm with Jocelyn about the sobbing photo-it made me smile and I'm impressed you took the time to take it too-brilliant! My two generally play well together and I think it does get easier as they get older but it's really important that they both feel they have their 'own' stuff, whatever that stuff might be! Thank you for sharing with #TheThemeGame

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    1. As soon as the baby can I understand a bit more I'm hoping it will all calm down. Come Christmas it will be hunky dory. Then to work on the hub for number three! ;) xxx

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  7. I'm sure all siblings go through stages like this, I know my brother and I did. I have similar problems with Monkey and his friends at times. #TheThemeGame

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    1. Oh me and my sister were always at each others throats. It was relentless!!! xxx

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  8. Erm, having 'only' one little bear, I couldn't possibly say for sure. But methinks very possibly not. Until they're at least teenagers any way and that may be pushing it...

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    1. Me and my sis still row. And we are in our 30s! There is no hope :( xxx

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  9. Um... It gets better, sort of :) My boys are 7 and 4 and can play nicely for a good while. Sometimes! The wee girl, well, she mainly annoys them :) #TheThemeGame

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    1. I think I need to embrace the fact that there will be continuous fighting. Ohhh the doom!!! x

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  10. Great post! And I love the pictures. Tell the story perfectly! x

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    1. Thanks! Crying babies are a bit funny (when not in pain obviously!) xxx

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  11. Oh this made me laugh in recognition! Mine are 2.5 and nearly 5 now but things are exactly the same here. I'll pop my head in the door and they'll be playing perfectly, but just as I start the washing up, or am elbow-deep in flour, they'll start fighting. Without fail! I hope it gets better soon too!

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    1. Its relentless isn't it???? When will the stop with the fighting. We have super bad hair pulling here. Non stop. We shout at the baby and he just laughs and finds it hilarious. Nightmare x

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  12. Oh I love this post! My Boo has no siblings yet but is terrible if her friends come over to play- she immediately wants anything the other child touches, and same as your daughter, at Pre school apparently she loves sharing and even shares the toys she takes in with the other children! I used to work in nurseries and reception classes and there is a big change in them once they get to school, which I'm sure helps them at home as well, as they like feeling grown up and mature- so not long to go!!
    Ps LOVE the bit about the half a rubber! Lol xx

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