Tuesday, 4 February 2014

White Clouds...

I'm generally a happy chappy and enjoy a good laugh and my blog reflects that. But this week our family was rocked with the death of our little cat Babs. Sorry on two accounts 1) death is uber depressing and 2) some people just don't like cats. I love them. In fact one may say I am a mad cat lady. But I also have a dog too so I'm just a mad animal lady.

Anyway we knew Babs was going to have to be put to sleep as she was super poorly, we just didn't know how Erin was going to react. Ethan hasn't a clue. He doesn't even know what a cat is yet, bar something to torture. How on earth were we going to tackle (gulp) death.

I'm not really religious. I'm an RE teacher and have thought about it a lot over the past decade of teaching, and have come to the conclusion that I'm just not sure what happens when when we die. I love teaching religion and learning about religion and sometimes I'm jealous of those who do believe in an afterlife. But I just don't at the moment. However there was no way I could explain that too Erin. So I went down the heaven route.

I told her Babs was very, very old and very, very poorly (stressing how she was loads older than Great Nanny Joyce and that she was far poorlier than just having a cold. I didn't want her to think that all poorly or all old people were on the verge of death). That we weren't going to see her ever again. And she was going to live in the white clouds.

We had a little chat about heaven. And what it would be like. Erin said that she thought Babs would enjoy sliding down chocolate slides and watching TV. I agreed. She gave Babs a little dolly to take with her and a kiss on the nose and that was that.

Whilst we were eating dinner that night Erin started talking about us going on the plane for Nanny San's 60th. And she said when we are on the plane we can look out the window and into the white clouds and see Babs going down the chocolate slide. I liked that idea.

Today Erin told her ballet teacher she intends on getting a new cat. And it will be pink. So I think she's over it. Which I'm really happy about.

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  1. We had to explain to our daughter about the death of our cat last year. We don't believe in an afterlife either so we told her that Seven's body was broken and the vet couldn't fix her so she died and we were going to put her safe in Grandma and Grandad's garden. After asking where Seven was every now and then she's over it now.

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    1. Ahhhh what a good idea! I did the heaven thing as the hubs family are catholic so it's something to tide her over for a bit until she can make her own mind up. They get over it quickly don't they? Which is lucky xxx

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  2. What a lovely way of explaining death to a little one. The comments she made about looking out of the aeroplane are beautiful.

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    1. I must admit it did make me weep But she is ever so happy for Babs and that has made me feel a lot better too. Pets eh? Part of the family xxx

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  3. Sorry for your loss. They are members of the family, so it's hard. We had Boo's fish die last week, and were unsure how to break it to her, but she just pronounced it dead and asked for another! How she'll be when our dog dies is another matter, of course, we will see.That's a lovely way to explain it to Erin, and her idea of heaven is rather wonderful! Thanks for sharing with #TheThemeGame x

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    1. We were so surprised we were all so upset. The kiddies have been fine about it. I'm hoping to get another kitten. I may suggest another baby or a kitten. Bet we will defo get one then!!!! Ha ha ha xxx

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  4. Oh I'm so sorry. But, what a beautiful way you explained death, and what a gorgeous thing Erin said about the clouds. A sad but lovely post x

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    1. Thank you! I'm quite hoping there will be chocolate slides when we go. They sound utterly ace! xxx

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  5. Oh, I'm sorry, losing a pet is devastating. I love the way you explained it to Erin, and I love her comments about looking out of the plane xx

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  6. We had to explain about losing our cat, although it was slightly complicated by the fact that not long before that happening, my mother in law had passed away quite suddenly so it kind of got jumbled up together for our (then) 4 year old! I too love animals and the idea of looking for Babs in the clouds is just lovely. Thank you for sharing with #TheThemeGame

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