Thursday, 22 May 2014

Do Not Feed The Troll

Recently I have been teaching General Studies to my Year 10's about Social Media and commenting online. We did a big huge bit on trolls. And my lovely class told me about how they get called fat, or ugly, or told to kill themselves. They have pictures sent to them of dead rude things and basically a fair few of them have got abuse at one time or another. A troll is basically someone who posts things negatively on the Internet. And today? I got a couple come my way.

I have been called 'classless', 'insecure', 'crazy' and been told that my husband is 'belittled' by me or is 'incompetent'. All because I wrote a piece saying that Dad's love softplay, quavers and McDonalds. That's it. Did I comment on religion? No. Was I racist? No. I was just being a bit daft as are most of my pieces of writing. I have written about bunting, Eurovision, Take That and all sorts. I have made fun out of myself. I have made fun out of my children. Because that is what I do. And call me a crazy person (oh hang on you already did) but this is MY blog. This is not a multi-national company. This is one, slightly chubby, mid 30's woman, sat in her bedroom writing something to make her mates smile, and recording memories for my children. That is it. Nothing sinister. Nothing horrible. Simply an on-line diary of motherhood.

My feelings exactly

I am writing about my experiences, I am writing about the experiences of my friends and their husbands. I am not writing about every, single individual in the world. I have written about my struggle looking after two children, my inability to not go on a night out and get wrecked and puke, my failings as a mother, and some of the things my kids do to drive me mad. But today some men, read one piece and enjoyed to well just be bloody mean to me. My favourite quality in someone is being able to laugh at yourself. And that is how I write.

The dignified thing would be to not comment, delete their views and move on. And as I told my Year 10's to 'not feed the troll' but as I am 'classless' I am confronting you. If you do not like my blog, if you think I am a dick and generally you dislike me. Then you know what. Block me on twitter, ignore my website and generally do one. If you want to leave a mean comment again, then I will refer you back to this very piece, before I delete and block you. Arseholes.

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  1. Amen to that! Your little bit of the internet to say what you think! People can choose to read or not read. If they don't like it, go away! Don't be rude! And if they're so much better than you they should go and write their own amazing 'classy' blog.

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    1. Thanks lovely. I appreciate the support xxx

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  2. I read your last post and i got it. I got your sense of humour (bit like mine). I have written similar posts to this and wondered if i should add a disclaimer pointing out that was supposed to be a humourous post. Then thought no and everything you said above. So... well said x

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    1. I have in the past written a post stating I love my child and love my husband. Like I have to justify myself! It's ridic isn't it?

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  3. Me & the block button are good friends! Well used & abused! I have a few trolls, though I actually feel for them as I think they have mental problems. Bless them. Just read your last piece & thought it was hilarious and we can relate! :D

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    1. Thanks lovely. Glad you weren't mortally offended by me! I will be using the block button a lot I feel xxx

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  4. Most of the stuff that you write will have people that like it and people that don't. Those that like it tend to say nothing or not comment, those that don't like it will always say something mean, that's the sort of people they are- negative. They're the sort of people that go to a restaurant, enjoy a nice meal, but then complain about it in order to get a refund. The hardest thing for you to do is to ignore them, as negative comments hurt. But ignore them you must! Carry on writing, and don't let a few haters stop you writing. Right, I'm off to McDonalds! X

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    1. Thanks Baba. You are a good un! Hope you enjoyed a nugget on me xxx

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  5. Seriously! Gob smacked about this. I wrote a similar thing called "when dad is in charge" that my husband joked I should write about. It is just taking the mick a bit. Your man obviously loves his kiddies and just wants to spoil him. If you can't spot a bit of hamming it up on a blog, you need to get out of the piggery ;) (that makes sense to me). You write such lovely things about your husband too (can he take me for coke and cake next time) xx

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    1. It made sense to me too! Ha ha ha ha. I bloody love my husband but as with all husbands they drive us mad. Like I drive him mad I'm sure xxx

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  6. Aww poppet!! So sorry to hear people are being mean to you - bad buggers! I will stand alongside you in the Resistance - your blog, your choice what to put in it. Simples. You bring ALL the smiles Brummymum - and are so very well thought of by us all. Chin up chicky xx

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    1. Thanks lovely. The world is full of crazies this is now apparent! xxx

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  7. I thought the post was funny and it's exactly what happens in this household! Are you sure it wasn't your husband commenting and getting his own back? :-)

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    1. He never reads it so he is in blissful ignorance! Ha ha ha xxx

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  8. I loved the post as it rang so many bells! Also, the photos show very clearly that your hubster is a great Dad, and that you just have different styles of parenting (although I have issues with my ex, I am very grateful that he sits down and plays board games with my two - I hate them!). Chin up lovely - keep writing, it's a great blog! xx

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    1. When I said I hate them, I meant the board games, not my own children! (I am an eejit)

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    2. Ha ha knew you meant board games. Thanks so much for the comment. He is a fab Dad but like me is not perfect. No-one is bar the trolls obv they think they are! xxx

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  9. Stupid people! They are everywhere. 10 times more people enjoy what you write! So let's not give the nobs the time of the day xx

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    1. Thanks for the comment lovely lady. Hope you and your chap are well! xxx

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  10. Oh people like this annoy me! If you don't have nice to say, don't say anything at all! Please don't have a blogging break, your blog is amazing and I love reading it x

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    1. Ahh what a lovely thing to say. I will just be having a few days break to calm down a bit! xxx

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  11. some people are beyond ignorant!!! brilliant post, well written x

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    1. Thanks! I defo felt so much better afterwards! xxx

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  12. You keep on writing and ignore them - I love reading your blog as it always makes me giggle. People take things way too seriously, and as you say, it's your blog and you're entitled to say whatever you want. I've just read the dad post and it was clearly funny and written with love for your husband. Why people think they're entitled to just be plain rude to you is beyond me, as you say, just don't read it then. Love to you xx

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    1. Thanks lovely lady. I really wasn't trying to be mean. I was wondering if it was a breakdown between USA and UK humour? Who knows. Let's sort our bloggers Thomas trip soon! xxx

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  13. It was a brilliant post!! I thought it was hilarious! Some people just need a sense of humor....

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    1. I think you very well could be right!! xxx

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  14. There's always a few - you can;t please everyone! But if you're making the majority laugh and yourself along with it then fuck the few wankers who can't see the funny side. ;) I occasionally get the odd troll. Delete, ignore, forget :) x

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  15. Ouch! Who is this idiot and who does he think he is? I thought your previous post was spot on. Maybe that makes me classless too. Whatever, keep doing what you're doing lady x

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    1. We are classless together! Alas was more than one man. I feel it may have been a gang. Silly nobs xxx

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  16. Thanks to everyone that left lovely messages on my blog, tweeted me or even tried to tell the man off! Much appreciated. I will be taking a teeny tiny break to generally mope and shout about the men ever so often. And eat some chocolate and maybe have a gin. Then normal moany service will be resumed. Lots of Love Me xxxxx

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  17. As a daddy day care beginner I actually enjoyed the post, though I already know too many people take too much far too seriously. I also know that try as I might not to fall into some of those stereotypes, I do sometimes lapse. And when I do, the best thing to do is laugh about it!

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    1. Ah thanks so much for the comment. I was worried all dads in the world hated me forever and ever! Dads love softplay and this is qhy kids bloody love being with their Dads! xxx

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  18. This is a smart blog. I mean it you have so much knowledge about this issue and so much passion. 
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