Wednesday, 28 January 2015

I DO love you child No2

Dear The Boy

Today I was having a clean out. You tried to help then, got bored and insisted on attempting to throw yourself off the top of your sister's new bunk bed. Again. Anyway. I digress. I came across these. These two perfectly lovely baby books. That I received as gifts when you were born. At the time I remarked how pretty they were. Sent 'Thank You' cards and lovingly put them on the shelf in the nursery vowing to start filling them in after the initial rush of having two small children calmed down.

Two years on? They remain as pristine and as empty as they day I got them. Taunting me every time I go into your room. Judging me. Insinuating to The Gruffalo and The Mr Men series that I do not love you, as much as love my first child. Well snore off beautiful baby books. I do! OK my daughter has two scrapbooks lovingly marking each milestone with shabby chic stickers and beautiful sayings. You have one hastily shoved together photo album I made in guilt one night.

So in a nutshell here are your milestones. At some point you started walking. I think it was around 14mths. You also started talking somewhere along the line. I can't remember your exact first word but I am hazarding it was "NO!" or "MINE". You got teeth. And once I took you for a haircut and you kept moving so there is one blurred photo knocking around in a drawer somewhere. Your milestones unfortunately got mixed in along the way with your big sisters tantrums, and potty training, and nursery drop offs, and pre-school starting. The list goes on and on and on.

Oh gorgeous books. I am sorry you remained sad and unfilled

I'm sorry. But I want you to know. Whilst there is no Cath Kidston style scrap book to mark the start of your life, what you did get is the benefits of being 'second'. You got a Mum who wasn't as overly anxious when you tripped into mud and who didn't follow you around a soft play like a maniac stalker monitoring your every move. You were allowed chocolate at a much earlier age and you could cane a 99 ice cream before you could crawl. You got 'Relaxed Mum'. You got 'a bit distracted so you got away with blue murder' Mum.

You have spent far too many nights tucked up in bed with us as we didn't want you to wake your sister by crying. You had a ready made playdate in the form of her and you will have the benefit of always being the baby. You weren't shoved into a big boys bed at two and potty trained shortly after like your sister. You my boy? Are living the life of riley.

So let's make a deal. When you are older and you ask to look at your scrapbook and I have to fess up and say there isn't one. You remember this. Next year? When your big sister is at school and we have a full year to ourselves. We had the most fun a Mother and a two/three year old boy can humanly have. It will involve Thomas Land, it will involve Fruit Shoots and it will most definitely feature the odd snuggle on the couch eating Smarties. So don't moan too much eh?

Love You

Mummy x

Walking? Check! Talking? Check? Teeth? Check. Perfect!

42 comments:

  1. Yep, everything went out the window for number two here too!! Great post x

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  2. Love this post it's so true ! Poor number 2 but still he didn't get overly ocd hand gel at every turn mummy

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    1. Oh the hand gel. He's lucky if I use water! x

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  3. Too cute again. He knows! I wanna come and hang out on your year together as it sounds epic xx

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  4. This got me a bit emosh! Lovely post gorgeous xxx

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  5. aww im so guilty of this too xx

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  6. I started with great intentions with number 1 but lets face it with those books the special ocassions are better spent enjoying them than running to write them down. When it gets to number 2/3/4 there is just no way of finding the time. It is hard but as you say they are extremely loved!

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    1. Oh god if I ever got to four I would dread to think what would happen! x

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  7. I am a second child. There is no first curl, creepily popped in a plastic pouch or a freaky baby tooth stowed away somewhere; there are fewer photographs and there is no baby book for me like there is for my older brother.

    My Mum is my best friend in the entire world and it bothers me not a jot that there are none of these things for me. I have memories of playing, reading and singing with her and I know that I'm loved just as much as my brother.

    Besides, I'm the baby of the family and still spoiled rotten at 28! I'm sure your little would cherish the memories of playing with his Mummy over a few pages of scribbled information about his baby-hood!

    Lovely post x

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    1. Ah that's such a lovely thing to say about your Mum. Made me feel a bit I am proper crap x

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  8. Its not tough being the second one, not really. My girl didn't even eat chocolate until she was almost three. My boy was only 1 1/2. Life has its perks! :)

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  9. Love this!! Finley got baby swimming lessons - Noah gets taken to the local pool ins Sunday if we're not too tired, as I have two boys Finley gets new clothes and Noah gets Finley's clothes! But I plan to do the same with Noah while Finley's at school - eat smarties on the sofa snuggling :-) xx

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    1. My boy will be eating smarties. He only gets new clothes as my girl is well a girl! x

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  10. Love this post, it got me a bit emotional! I'm a second child and not a bit bothered that there's an envelope with my brothers first curl and beautiful drawings of him done my artist mother when he was a sleeping baby, I got the advantages that all youngest siblings get :) it's the middle children I feel for! He'll love his one on one time next year with you!

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  11. Love this post, it got me a bit emotional! I'm a second child and not a bit bothered that there's an envelope with my brothers first curl and beautiful drawings of him done my artist mother when he was a sleeping baby, I got the advantages that all youngest siblings get :) it's the middle children I feel for! He'll love his one on one time next year with you!

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    1. Ah don't be emosh. Oh god if I have another one he will have to get a letter to a middle child! ;) x

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  12. Awww I have a confession.....we don't have a baby book of any sort for Arthur...
    God help any brothers or sisters he ever has haha!
    I love this view of it though Hun totally right :) xx

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    1. Yeah but you do have a blog silly! That's going to be there for him x

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  13. Oh this is fab :) I spend far too much time worrying that my 2nd and 3rd have no baby book, or 5000 photo albums filled with every move they ever made! They never got to baby sensory, or baby swim or any of that jazz, but you are right, they got a whole lot of other stuff which is just as fab, if not more so :) Thanks for the reminder of that. Great post!

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    1. Thanks! God I hated baby groups. Totally avoided it with my second! x

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  14. Yep I'm a second too and made so much fuss about not having a devoted baby book that my sister made me my own childhood book one time bless her! 😄

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  15. I must be a terrible mum, I constantly forgot to fill in my little mans baby book. Every now and again there is the odd update, oops! Hoping he doesn't hold it against me! xx

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    1. Nah he won't and do remember you have got a whole blog for him! x

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  16. Love it! I didn't even do it with number 1, does that make me a total mama bitch?? xx

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    1. Ha ha ha! Don't be daft. You have a whole blog for your kid! x

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  17. Ha ha, good point! Second (and third) kids really benefit from the mistakes we made and learned from first time round.
    Although I'm feeling really smug now that all three of my kids have their identical books thoroughly filled in :)

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    1. Oh well done you! I am totally useless! x

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  18. Oh I so can relate to this Em- I was so good with Mads, I even wrote her sodding hand written letters every month? But LL. Not a sausage. ;)

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    1. Handwritten every month?? That's amazing!!! x

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  19. And that's just the second one....imagine what kind of rough deal the third one gets! Really cute though and so true - the second and third ones do get a bigger deal overall me thinks :) x

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    1. Yeah my boy is totally spoilt bless him. And he ruddy knows it x

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  20. Absolutely love this. My hubby is the eldest child in his family and his mum always apologises to him and says she had no idea what she was doing and that he was the 'practice run'. Love it. I'm sure your boy will know just how much you truly love him. xo

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  21. Absolutely love this. My hubby is the eldest child in his family and his mum always apologises to him and says she had no idea what she was doing and that he was the 'practice run'. Love it. I'm sure your boy will know just how much you truly love him. xo

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    1. Ha ha! I did trial out some things on my girl I have perfected for my boy! x

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