Thursday, 22 January 2015

Time to put my Big Girl Pants on...

I have a confession. For all my gobby-ness. For all my literally I have no shame-ness. I am a bit of a wimp. I am naturally self deprecating. And I always give people the benefit of the doubt. I generally have a spurt of outrage and then within 24 hours things are forgiven and everything is back to normal. I forgive, forget and then I move on. Which in some ways is a perfectly pleasant character trait. In others? Well it makes me a total p*ssy. However things? Are about to change.

One of the best thing about having children. Is it makes you want to be a better person. Not a baking, craft making, domestic goddess (as you know I'm never going to be that). It makes me want to take my character flaws, work on them and ensure that they are not inherited by my little ones. That they learn from my mistakes and that they get the best bits of me (such as karaoke skills and knowledge of Take That), and the worst bits? Pass them by.


My girl has been having a few issues with her pre-school this week. Not really a big deal and it's been sorted. But it meant that I had to stand up and be the Mother I don't really feel comfortable with being. You know the one that kicks up a fuss, the one that writes a stern letter or has a few words at the end of the day. The ball breaking, no nonsense Mum. To be honest the "Oh God here she comes again" Mother. I've had to put my big girls pants on and manned - well lady-ed up. Which is ironic really as my actual real life pants are ginormous. 

I want my girl to have the best time at school ever. I know kids will be kids and there will be times where she falls out with people. As a teacher I also know children? Are brutal monsters (only last week I experienced a "Miss you need to do your roots" thanks!). But I want her to be tougher than me, the soft edges of forgiveness are a lovely quality but on the other hand she needs to also be able to stand up for herself. She needs to be able to accept that sometimes in life? People are just d*cks.

And so do I. It's impossible to be friends with everyone all the time. It is unrealistic to think that everything is going to go your way. So whilst she is learning the little life skills you need to survive such as tying your shoe laces and putting your fingers in the right parts of a glove (God this skill is taking SO LONG to acquire) I am going to put both the metaphorical and actual big girl pants on and watch her back. Whilst trying my hardest to watch mine along the way.

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  1. Ahh bab we all have to wear our big girl pants sometimes, I am like you though and generally don't like to make a fuss. Then i can be known to let it simmer and blow up and make everyone go WHAT?!
    Sounds like you are doing the right thing though, you always have ace judgement Emma. Hope the little lady is ok xxx

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    1. Ah thanks bab. She's OK now I caused a small fuss. I probably need to let her man up a bit too! Lots of love x

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  2. Eeeep! Scary mother alert. Good on you love. Nothing wrong with saving the big girl pants for when they are really needed. That's when people know to really listen.. x

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    1. You can't beat a big pair of brave pants! x

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  3. Hope the little lady is ok. Big girl pants are needed sometimes for sure, I'd definitely want to be more easy going the rest of the time. I need to let much more go! Hope you're ok lovely xx

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    1. Thanks bab! All is well here now and I have totes calmed down. I was being a Mamma Lioness fo sure x

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  4. Aww hope your daughter is ok and she is so lucky to have a mum like you to have her back!!
    Good on you!!
    (Can't believe a child told you your roots need doing!!!) x

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    1. And sadly? That is nothing compared to what some of them have called me the sods! x

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  5. Please can I borrow those big girl pants after you, my partner has this exact character trait hehe x

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    1. You may. In fact? I will get you a nice clean pair. I don't thin you want mine! x

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  6. I'm a complete wimp as well and am useless at standing up for myself- I need myself a pair of these big girl pants you speak of. Hope your little girl is ok. x

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    1. She is OK beaut. It has been a bit of a tough week but she's ace and a proper trooper! x

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  7. I'm a total wuss too. I hate confrontation but I have to meet the headmistress on Monday and kick up a stink about my son who needs extra help which he isn't getting. I will wear a giant pair of pants....got plenty of those lying around to be fair. Full briefs from Primark....'big girl pants' in their literal form. I may even wear two pairs. Hopefully if I literally wear them then perhaps I'll lady-up and fight his corner. Let's do it!

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    1. Wear three pairs. And one on your head and then you will get your own way for sure! x

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  8. Yes definitely, big girl pants on :) I am not too bad but could certainly lady-up a bit more in certain situations...

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    1. Oh you sound like you may be quite brave! I need to get some of what you have got! x

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  9. It really does have to be done! I'm a bit shy and retiring, but am far better at standing up for my kids than I am at standing up for myself. Like the 'being left out of the football team' incident. It wasn't actually resolved, but at least we let them know they'd upset my kid.
    As a teacher, I bet it's hard to be THAT MOTHER. My sis and BIL are teachers and are always moaning about those parents and telling me I mustn't be one as it's just annoying for teachers.
    Glad all is resolved for your little lady anyway. Until some more d*cks come along, as we all know they will!

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    1. There defo will be some of them along the way. It hard to kick up a fuss as teachers always roll their eyes at Mums like that. But hey my kids are more important than me looking a bit of an idiot! x

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  10. Oh, this made me sad for little E! :( It's utterly crap when they're unhappy at school - my 3 have all been through it at some point and I could just weep for them. But you are right luvvie - if we don't have their backs no one else will. Big girl pants all round! Xxx

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    1. I think I need to lady up and think that kids can sometimes be mean and it is six of one and half a dozen of the other. It's sorted for now so HUZZAH! Bless her cotton socks x

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  11. Aww I'm sorry to hear little E has been having some trouble at school, it's so heartbreaking for them! BUT I know with you as her mummy she's going to grow into such a wonderful confident and thoughtful little girl - she won't let anyone stand in her way don't you worry about that. I hope things are better for her now. Lots of love xx

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    1. Ah thanks bab. Hopefully it is all sorted now bab. I'm not a sad kinda person but I will be honest this did upset me this week :( x

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  12. Hope you got it all sorted. Sounds like you had your supermum pants on x

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    1. Thanks pretty lady. I think we have got it sorted. Thanks the lord. The lovely little sausage x

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