Wednesday, 19 August 2015

What's Your Parenting Pressure Point?

If you follow me on my insta-sham you will see that my kids and I are continuously out. All the time. Everyday. I have no issue taking them by myself to a theme park and when my girl was ten months? I flew to New York with her. Didn't bat an eyelid. Sometimes people comment on my photos or say in passing "you're always out you are". They even comment how they wouldn't dare do some of the things I do with my two small children alone.

Conquering Thomas Land alone? Boom! Getting them to put coats on? CAN'T DO IT!

But I have a confession to make. In the past year or so I wake up in the midst of an anxiety attack. Every morning. I am up from about 5am with a feeling of fear and dread. My belly feels full of butterflies. I thought it might have been my job, as teaching can be quite pressured. But no it was there in the school holidays too. My heart thump, thump, thumps. However I noticed when I was away on holiday last week? It wasn't there. I got up, I felt 'normal' and I got on with my day.

And it dawned on me. I was 'OK' as my other half was around for those manic few hours before you go out. You know that bit where you need to get two or more people ready. You need to make sure you look half decent and all hell can break loose with a spilt juice or a fight over a toy. It was that. It was the simple act of getting my children ready that was (and still is) making me feel sick. That was my parenting pressure point. The lack of control. The fear of the unknown. Getting four tiny feet in four tiny socks. Finding wellies or jelly shoes. Getting arms into coats. Changing the shoes on wrong feet to the right ones.

It took three attempts get to get these feet in these non matching her tights shoes

Now you are probably thinking I am insane. And that in the scheme of your day? Getting out the house is a breeze compared to commandeering the buggy round Asda, or the hour before bed where kids go bat sh*t cray cray. You may dread potty training. You could look at me flying around Thomas Land with two tots and think I've got my act together. But I just wish I could simply wake up, get three people ready without one or more of us in tears. I wish shouty teacher voice was well hidden and that I didn't have to scream "JUST GET YOUR COAT ON!" ten times. I wish I was you.

But I'm not. I'm me and as much as I wish I was. I'm not perfect. I need to embrace the fact that for the next few years I will find mornings stressful. I've decided to try and minimise the feeling of dread by getting clothes ready the night before. Asking the other half to help out with changing nappies or cleaning tiny teeth. I can't do everything. I can't be supermum. And I need to be a little less harder on myself. Embrace my brill bits and try my best to suck up the crap bits. But next time you see me zooming round the Tree-Fu Tom ride at CBeebies Land, or frolicking on the beach. Think to yourself "Jeez I bet she struggled to get them pair out the house today!".

I GOT THEM OUT THE RUDDY HOUSE!

20 comments:

  1. I'm the same! Especially when it's term time, I find myself running around like a blue arse fly repeating "where are you shoes? Get them on" and "why are you stood half naked watching peppa pig? We need to leave!!" So rest assured, your not alone. I hate mornings too.

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  2. I have all this to look forward to. I think getting a 22 month old ready is stressful, god help me if i have another one. But we do it and that's all that matters. We feed them, we get the dressed and we take them out to play and learn and yeah it's a struggle but we do it because we are awesome!

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    1. It's so much hard work!!!! But WE ROCK! x

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  3. Overall, I reckon you do pretty well! They look scamps, the pair of them! ��

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  4. This was like reading a post all about me! I start to feel the panic rising up in my chest as soon as there is resistance to brush teeth and the inability to find clean knickers in their drawer. My other half says I'm an angel...Once we've left the house! Ive started to plan to get us out the house half an hour before we really need to and boom - it has worked! I thought I was just weird and uptight feeling like this so thankyou for sharing so honestly x

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    1. Ahhh no we are both as bad as each other! x

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  5. Mine is getting the boy to JUST GO TO SLEEEEEEEP!!!

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  6. At the minute, I'd totally agree that this is my pressure point! I feel the desperate need to get my two out of the house everyday, even if only for a little while. But that period between waking up & actually getting out is pretty darn stressful! Breakfasts/getting dressed/changing numerous nappies/putting shoes on (before they are quickly taken off again)/packing the changing bag/remembering enough nappies & wipes/snacks/drinking bottles etc & actually having the chance to have a shower & make myself look human is a whirlwind of shouting and tears, from all participants! I am more shouty, panicky & stressed in those few hours than at any other point in the day!

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    1. Snap! I find it such hard hard work! x

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  7. I dread trying to get one child out of the house, let along two. And he always picks the day we're already running late to decide he wants to dress himself "all by himself" and screams blue murder if I try to help him! This morning being a prime example. xx

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    1. Oh god my girl went through an awful stage of this! x

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  8. I know what you mean - I get so shouty

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  9. I'm impressed that you actually do manage to get out of the house if you find it so stressful! I love being out of the house, but only locally. The thought of going anywhere like a theme park fills me with dread as I'm a crap driver and hate crowds. But a walk round the village? I'm very happy. The kids, not so much. They'd like a mum who would take them to Alton Towers.

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    1. Oh god there is nothing worse than staying in a house with small children!!!! That's why I go out! x

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  10. Amazing post! Getting us all ready and out the door has got to be the worst task if I could skip that part and get straight to being out I so would, I often have to take myself to my room sit down breathe and just remind myself I'm human and not a robot and that it's okay to get into a dramatic flap at times x

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    1. Snap! If I could be in the car and them all ready it would be the dream x

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