Sunday, 15 November 2015

How To Handle 'The Worry'

This weekend the whole world was rocked by yet another attack on innocent people. I won't go into details, or talk about the horror, the whys or the wheres, the total injustice. But what I want to talk about is the worry. The fear. The panic. The 'well now I'm a bit scared to leave the house as you never know what might happen'. The feeling of looking at your small children, or big children, and worrying about the kind of world you have brought them into. What does the future hold for them? And how can we shelter them from it if it's bad?

I am one of life's over thinkers. I rarely live in the moment. I'm always over analysing the past and looking towards what may go wrong in the future. It takes a lot for me to live in the present. To really appreciate the pleasure of what is happening in the moment. I anticipate trouble. Except things to go wrong. So you would think that events like this to make me want to batten down the hatches and never leave the house. My kids living off Fruit Shoots, Smarties and Peppa Pig. Me living off gin.


But that's what the bad people want. If your little lovely came home from school and said that someone was being mean to them. Would you expect them to give in, hand over dinner money, or would you expect them to fight back. How many times do we say "try to ignore them". Bad people want a reaction. They want to bring us down. Make us feel scared. But for the sake of our kids no matter what is in our hearts we have to show them that this isn't the case.

As parents we have to carry on with strength. Sure there may be times where we think "OK that's probably not a safe thing to do right now" but we need to take mindless acts of terrorism like this and help them make us stronger. Show our children that we will not be bullied. That our lives will carry on. Fun will still be had. Laughter will still be heard. Each and every moment will be appreciated. Even the ones where they are driving us mad.

So as the ultimate worry wart here is how I am going handle my life living in a world of uncertainties. By making sure each moment counts. By squeezing my babies even harder each night. By embracing that not every day will be perfect and that's OK. That's life. And what a precious life we have as it can go in a moment and those cuddles, laughter and tantrums can all vanish in a split second.

17 comments:

  1. Having the same thoughts- were we selfish bringing children into this world? But you're right, there are so many wonderful things about it too. Thanks for reminding me. I will also be giving extra big cuddles today. :)

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    1. We have spent the whole day together and it has been totally lovely. And cuddles a plenty! x

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  2. Brilliant post! These could be your wisest words to date. I too am one of life's worriers, but have pretty much reached the same conclusion. We can't let fear of what might happen hold us back, we have to carry on embracing life. Even if it sometimes seems scary.

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    1. Thanks lovely. The only thing to do is keep on going isn't it? Or else we would be living in fear. Which is awful x

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  3. Brilliant post and spot on. Definitely been thinking and worrying about the world I've brought my kiddies into. Thank you for putting it all into words x

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  4. Wise Words! Although With this crappy weather, I plan on staying in, snuggled up, playing and not getting wet & blown about. The Xmas shopping I was planning can wait till next weekend!

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    1. Oh my gosh it has been awful today hasn't it! x

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  5. Brilliant post. Really struck a nerve with me too. Thankyou for putting into words what we are all feeling.

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  6. All I have to do is watch my mini me skipping through a shopping centre and dancing to the music to know there are good things in this world, we are raising them now! We just need to the courage to not put our fears and hurts into them

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    1. Ahhhh I love watching my mini me being mad. It makes me so so so happy x

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  7. I was having such a worry filled day yesterday about what kind of work our children are facing. Then someone pointed out very simply that it's our job to fill that world with love and happiness. Lovely post and spot on xx

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  8. So true. We can't really do anything to stop the bad things. But we can hold on to all the good things we have. xx

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  9. This is really spot on. I am a natural worrier too so I can totally relate. Thank you for adding the positive message.

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  10. Thanks for writing this Em. I am a massively anxious person at times, especially after horrific and sad events like this weekend and I am one of those people who really fear things. So right now I feel like not going to London in a couple of weeks and not doing other fun stuff we have planned. But I know deep down I can't let things like this stop us from living our life and creating happy moments. x

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  11. Totally get this and I've been feeling more anxious over the weekend too. It's normal and I think lots of us have been thinking this xx

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