Saturday, 19 December 2015

The Don't Beat Yourself Up Guide To Surviving Christmas

"HOORAY IT'S CHRISTMAS!" a nation of small children up and down the country scream. Schools have broken up. Nurseries have stopped allowing free hours for two weeks (b*stards) and it is officially the season to be jolly tra la la la laaaaa. Or. Tis the season to be off with a variety of rabid kids, your other half, random relatives, a bit too much booze, far too much sugar and a smidge (aka LOADS) of passive aggressiveness.

What is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year? Can end up being a bag of stress related nause and lead you to thinking "Is it January yet?". So here are a few thoughts from a Mum that is going through her fifth child filled festive month. And one that is DETERMINED to not let it break her this year. Firstly starting off with? Christmas is NOT like it is in the movies. Unless it all goes a bit 'Nightmare Before Christmas'. If you are addicted to Christmas Movies24 then you may be setting yourself up for a fall. The chances of it snowing are slim. The chances of the 'real' Father Christmas turning up to sort out a family feud? Even slimmer.

Tantrums don't stop at Christmas

What the films don't get across is the pressure. The pressure to get the right presents, uphold the right traditions, ensure the turkey is cooked to perfection, that your card to your Great Auntie Vera manages to get to Australia the right side of December 25th. It can take weeks of preparation. More often than not one of you doing all the organisation whilst the other sits and half heartedly offers to wrap one present on Christmas Eve.

There's advent calendars, elves on shelves, Christmas jumper day, unicorns being advertised in every ad break for £150 and the expectation that children should get everything on 'the list'. 'The list' that is ever changing. Not set in stone (anyone know where I can get a made up viking toy my son now randomly wants). There's glitter we have to remember to sprinkle in the garden on the 24th for the reindeer's to land (?!). Lies we have to construct about how Father Christmas manages to get into our house when we have no fire place. And it can all be very, very overwhelming.

LOOK AT HER FACE!

Especially as Christmas is supposed to be the time of year that kids love. That they are at their most happiest. But hands up whose child has had a breakdown in front of Santa? Threw a strop at a Christmas party and acted super ungrateful with what is in their advent calendar? December is the same as every other month, tantrums will still happen, naughty steps will still need to be used and even the threat of "you won't get any presents" is starting not to work.

So. Here is what you need to do if you are starting to think that Christmas is beating you. Remember what it is all about (not the Jesus bit). It's about family. It's about celebrating your little unit. Who cares if on Facebook some other Mum is having mega lolz doing Elf on the Shelf whilst you never bothered buying one. Your kids won't know. And in the scheme of life does it really matter if your Great Aunties card arrives late? Send an email one.

Christmas means comedy hats. Fact.

As long as your little crew is happy that is all that really matters. Think back to your Christmas's. Do you remember what the kids in the street got? No. But I bet you remember getting your first bike. Or laughing whilst your Nan snored in front of ET. So take a deep breath and try and enjoy yourself. By this time next week? It will all be over for another year.

10 comments:

  1. What a fab read and so very true!
    Merry Christmas to you and your family x

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    1. Thanks lovely! I hope you had an amazing time! x

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  2. Do you know what I don't get? All of your posts like this are utterly and absolutely true and I sit here thinking thank god it isn't just me (sometimes that feeling makes me cry a bit) BUT what I don't understand is how do we all end up in these situations??? Not just 'christmas must be perfect and it is all my responsibility to make it so' but the 'mum's do the packing for everyone and have a nervous breakdown doing so', the dread of going out out and putting on nan sparkle and knee boots (yes, we all do it), the minor stuff the other half does that DRIVES US MENTAL etc etc (ie, every post you write). Are we all just walking cliches or is there some kind of spell when we give birth that causes all this to happen to all of us?? Where/what is the influence that makes us feel like this? Is it the media, facebook, mum friends who are faking it until they make it? And why is it only bloggers that tell the truth (I'm talking to you mum on the school run getting out of the immaculately clean car who looks like she's from Paris with a blow dry, nice make up and that european style gorgeous 'just threw this on because I was born with a capsule wardrobe' outfit. At 8am. Her kids must have tantrums and sneeze on her too, or maybe she just gets up earlier.) I don't know what is worse, going through all this or realising what an epidemic this ridiculous pressure is on mum-women everywhere. I'm not usually a commenter but Brummymummy I love your blog, don't ever stop writing it, you will never know how much it helps my sanity in these crazy times of young children and wifedom. And yes, sometimes I do hide in the kitchen pretending to be 'just checking some work stuff when I'm reading it'. M xx

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    1. I wonder this too, it seems we kind of conform to a type. Your comment is spot on. Love the Blog brummy mummy xx

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    2. Thank you for that, I reread my comment this morning and thought I sounded like a ranty mad person, it just touched a nerve and it all came out!!

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    3. Not a mad person at all! It is SO weird how we are all the same and have the same feelings and issues. There is a lot of pressure and I think the best way to be is to embrace that being crap is OK. And that husbands are a bit crap too and that's OK. It's also OK to have a good moan. I did struggle with the whole "but we should be so grateful" all the time. Course I am! Just sometimes I am a bit annoyed too. Thanks for the comments ladies! xxx

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  3. All so true. There are so many things to remember and juggle alone (whilst the husband sighed deeply at my reminder that he needed to pick up a card from the kids for me - that's it, that's the one task he has all Christmas!) and it can feel a lot. But I know it's actually about their happy little faces, having cuddles watching movies and giggles over games. Those are the things we will remember, thank you for the reminder xx

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    1. Glad you liked the post! I hope you had an amazing Christmas and I can't wait to see you soon! x

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  4. Love this. I am about to endure my 14th Christmas as a mum so kind of coming out the other side now. Soon the kids will be sleeping their hangovers off until 2pm on Christmas Day, just leaving me, hubby and a bottle of Baileys. Happy days lol x

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