Sunday, 9 July 2017

The Week The Blog Nearly Stopped

This week has been a funny old week. In one way it has been amazing. My little boy smashed his school settling in, my daughter took part in her first gymnastics show producing some 'interesting' moves that shall stick with me for a lifetime. I had a friend come to stay and we laughed whilst screaming at Love Island in our pyjamas. All very ordinary. All very lovely. But on the flip side? Whilst all this very lovely, very ordinary stuff was going on. I had a few comments on my social media that suggested that ordinary is. Well sh*t.

You see ordinary is not seen as anything special. The media has spent years and years telling us that extraordinary is best. That might be extraordinarily beautiful or extraordinarily stylish. You really should want to live in a huge house. Your other half should probably want to drive a really nice car and your kids should be perfect. You should be slim, or trying to get slim, or be judging those people who aren't slim. You should rock motherhood like Kim Kardashian whilst looking contoured and sleek in a size 10 frock. Men should desire you. Women want to be you.


And some people manage to do this. Which is amazing. Some people just naturally smash at the game called life. But I? Am not one of those people. My children (as wonderful as they are) can drive me mad, I'm not slim and not in the process of trying to get slim. My house features more Ikea than it should now I am approaching 40 and should probably own real furniture. I can't contour and I love clothes from supermarkets. If I threw on a t-shirt and jeans I don't look cool. I look a state.

This week the tiny little comments here and there made by people who are just trying to upset people have chipped away a little bit. For the first time since I've started my blog I haven't been able to write.  I've been laying awake at night wondering what the hell I can say. I've been questioning if I am good enough. Should I go on that diet? Should I perhaps brush my hair before I go on social media? Should I just be better? Is there a place on the internet for the ordinary person? Where do I fit in?


But that's just being a w*nker. I am really, really lucky. I'm happy. I get my sh*ts and giggles by things like 25% off in the TU sale. Watching my little girl doing quite frankly the most bizarre moves in her gymnastics show whilst I cry tears of joy and hilarity. My house is beautiful in my eyes. Every piece of furniture tells a story. Even if that story is "remember that time we went to Ikea and I wanted to kill you because this f*cking wardrobe wouldn't fit in the back of your car?". I may not be Beyoncé. But I don't want to be. For starters dancing in those heels would proper f*ck up my bad back.

28 comments:

  1. I can't believe people take the time to do such nasty and hurtful comments. What are they trying to achieve? What good comes from it...nothing. Is just bullying. Yes your not gonna be everyone's cup of tea, but you have seen how many love you and how they have rallied round you. Don't change we love you. Don't let the comments of one keyboard warrior make you doubt yourself

    Stacey xxx unicornfairy.net

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  2. I think you're amazing. I would never post pictures of me no makeup but that's because I don't look half as good as you do. You have lovely skin! Keep doing what you do because you never fail to make me laugh! X

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  3. Keep doing what you're doing! You're fab! Ignore the haters there will always be some keyboard warrior with nothing better to do with their time. The media lays out all the unobtainable goals for everyone, young girls and boys, women, men, mothers, fathers, everyone. The fact that we can all have a portion of the Internet and control what it put out there for people to see is great it gives people a realistic view of life and goals that are achievable. Life isn't all glitz and glam and perfect, life is sometime just making it though the day hair scraped back and looking like a human (not a mess just human). I think your fab, chin up and don't let them get you down.x

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  4. I have recently discovered your YouTube channel and started following you (in a non stalker way!) I think you're amazing and absolutely hilarious! I cannot believe people make these awful comments, I would never have the confidence to post a pic of me without make up, you look amazing!never stop doing what you do! Xxx

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  5. Ordinary is is the extra ordinary. Most people live life wanting to be something else or something they can never have. That's a life wasted! You enjoy every moment and I can tell. Great post.xxx

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  6. We love ordinary. Ordinary is good. Ordinary is most of your followers trying to grasp relationships, parenting & all the other shizzle life throws. Please don't become a blogger who only shows 'perfect' - who are they trying to kid?!

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  7. I think you are absolutely fantastic and bloody hilarious. Love everything you do.x

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  8. I look a state in jeans and t-shirt. You're a lovely and good human, some people aren't and we don't like them. Don't leave us, we love you for what you do and who you represent 😘! Xx

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  9. Please please please don't ever think you're not good enough, we follow you because you are exactly like the rest of us, there are always a few sad people that leave sad little lives, that feel the need to pass on their negativity to others, screw them, you bloody ROCK 😘 X

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  10. *lead not leave 🤦🏻‍♀️

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  11. sharon flowers9 July 2017 at 08:39

    Just continue being you x you are fab x I look a state whatever I can't apply make up or afford to keep on trend I am simply a mum and a very happy one at that X all my bits are mine and not fake and I wouldn't want it any other way x I have a hubby who adores me and a beautiful little girl who doesn't care what I look like x im simply mummy x and ill take that any day x keep going Emma your great x

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  12. Seriously those people are trolls, you have to ignore them. My house is full of teenagers, clutter and madness, prom night I cried buckets once my son had left, I get overjoyed with each stage they complete in life and feel proud that I have created them.
    Trolls are negative people who set out to cause harm, they are the bullies in the school playground, you have to ignore, block and move on.
    Ps I look a state in jeans and a tshirt too. Who cares as long as I'm comfy lol

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  13. Oh blimey, no matter whether you are discovering the odd wanker on social media or whilst walking down the high street they will always be out there. Hell I don't know how to be the perfect mother and I don't think the "perfect" mothers really know what the hell they are doing, they just pretend to. We can all get a bit green eyed monster looking at the mother who drives the snazzy BMW to the school run, but I have lots in my life to be thankful for and perfectly normal humorous down to earth mummy bloggers like you make me realise it's ok to be normal.

    As my fantastic dad would say "don't let the bastards grind you down"

    XxX

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  14. You make me laugh out loud and sometimes even cry. I love your videos, I love that you are just being you and that you enjoy being you. Your kids are gorgeous, you are a great mum. Ignore the b*******, they are jealous waste of timers. Keep smiling and hold your head up high cos you are fab x ❤️

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  15. My little boy is nine months tomorrow and I suffer from postnatal depression. Not much makes me laugh right now but you do. Please don't stop posting. I know things will get better and reading your posts help me to realise that I don't need to be a perfect mother and wife. Thanks for making me smile x

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  16. From one 'ordinary' mum to another... to your children you ARE extraordinary. You are their life-giver and their world. To your partner, family and friends you are amazing, beautiful, loved. THEY are the opinions that matter. Embrace ordinary. It's much more fun than you could ever imagine. Xxx

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  17. I'm pissed off that bloody idiots have upset you. I'll be honest though - that people are trying to upset you is a sign of your success, you don't get haters till you've made it. I've been blogging/vlogging 17 months and you are an inspiration to me - as I've told you before. In this patriarchal world, we need women who keep it real. You help the everyday woman realise that she too is wonderful just how she is. That in itself is extraordinary. Plus you are bloody hilarious. You brighten our days. Don't ever change or stop. You are feckin fabulous. Xxx

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  18. I am not a brummy and I am not a mummy - and I LOVE your blog. It makes me laugh out loud and it makes me grin because you fill your readers with happiness and joy. Long may that last xx

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  19. Keep going hun. You make the rest of us normal mums/wives feel were doing OK. Let the haters hate. We love you because your you and your not afraid to show it!!

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  20. No, no, no! Don't ever let some ass**le get to you. You're brilliantly funny! I've just started blogging and it's lovely ladies like you that I aspire to be like (sh*t that sounds a little stalker ish �� I'm not I promise!). I'm just an ordinary mummy too and "ordinary" rocks in our house!
    Keep going!! x

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  22. Rebecca Widnall9 July 2017 at 13:03

    It's official Emma you have made it! People are picking fault at your life because well quite frankly thy want to be you. Please never stop being you because well then what would i do with my life if i cant watch your! It seems being genuine on social media is one of the hardest things to do but you do it perfectly!

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  23. "Ordinary" is what appeals to the gazillions of "ordinary" people that follow you, I showed my 73 year old mum your contouring vlog a couple of days ago and she was bawling with laughter, you bring laughter and normality to all walks of "everyday" people. I love the fact that I can ask you where you bought that fab floral dress or that to-die-for pair of pyjamas and you'll say Sainsbury's or Primark, places where the "ordinary" folk shop, somewhere that I can realistically go and track it down, not some designer boutique who don't stock anything above a size 10 and charge the earth for it!
    I'm not the slightest bit interested in following some up her own arse social(media)ite who just makes you feel a bit sh*t about yourself/your home/your kids.
    I was browsing Dunelm Mill and Asda homewares yesterday thinking how I could "BrummyMummyof2" my house more as I'm a sucker for a bit of copper and a succulent, I love watching your home tours!
    You're also a down to earth mum, a realistic mum, I wish there were more like you around. I have a 3 year old boy who drives me insane, he's not a naughty boy, he's just permanently so full of energy that he's like a Duracell Bunny, but in the days prior to pre-school when I used to brave all of the local toddler groups I was tutted at and looked down upon for not having a silent and obedient child. I wish I'd found your blog/Instagram/YouTube channel back then as I used to feel like the only one out there with a child who's a bit of a handful. He's just a normal little boy though, he likes to run about and climb things...how is that wrong!?
    What the hell is wrong with these people who leave you such nasty comments, does it really make them feel good about themselves, what do they hope to achieve!? I for one love reading/watching your "everyday" life on the numerous forms of social media and would be gutted if you stopped. Don't let the wronguns grind you down and don't ever change because of their shallow and spiteful comments, we love you as you are! xx

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  24. Ah my love, I'm sorry you've had a shitter of a week. You do a fab job, your blogs are so relatable and if that's "ordinary" so be it. You're one of those people I always think would be a laugh on a night out (not in Beyoncé shoes). And while some people think you moan about the kids (we all bloody do it) for me it makes me think that when mine drive me round the bend and I find parenting hard, I'm not alone. And you write in a wonderfully funny way, you can tell how much you love those kids. Keep going bab, the ordinary folk need you ���� Xxx

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  25. Oh no. I'm over 40 and have tones of IKEA. What age should I get rid of it? I don't want to grow up if I have to get rid of IKEA furniture

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