Thursday, 16 June 2016

How To Handle The Fear

This evening the news is full of yet another story of a tragic life lost to violence. Currently you can't read a paper or listen to the radio without being bombarded with horrific acts of terrorism or hatred. The hooliganism at the Euros is mindless and the never ending "should we, shouldn't we" leave Europe plays on my mind. And I am fearful. I am fearful that I have brought two small humans into a world where they may be discriminated against due to their sexual orientation. Where racism is still rife and acceptance is not. It worries me. A lot.

Growing up in Birmingham means that I have been lucky enough to have always been surrounded by a range of different people. I went to school in the very multi-cultural area of the city and my youth was spent with friends in gay clubs. People being 'different' to me has never been an issue. I am an RE teacher and spend my days encouraging the teens of today that we are all equal. I explain differences in order to create acceptance. But the world we are living in at the moment is not the world I grew up in.

It's not the world I want my children to grow up in and I don't know what to do about it. I found myself starting to irrationally worry that something terrible would happen to us if we were on a plane. Every time I visit London I feel sick to my stomach that something or someone may 'get me'. And speaking to friends I know I'm not the only one to feel like this. We are living in fear. We seem to be living in a world of hate. Where social media is able to spread it quicker than wildfire. Over the past few weeks I have read comments by other humans that spit out such hatred, it makes me sick to my stomach.

So I've decided that I am going to do something. And that something? Is for every time I see an act of violence on the news. For every time I hear a story about guns or hear of yet another act of terroism. I'm going to choose to make my mission to be the best parent I can be stronger. It's going to encourage me to talk to my children more about different faiths, different types of people. It's going to make me go into my school and explain topics in more depth and encourage my pupils to talk about their views openly regardless of sex or colour. Which in turn should help those that pass through my door get a better grip on the bigger picture.

The bigger picture is that we are all born innocent. What goes on around us moulds us. Changes us. And I for one want to make sure that my two beautiful children are moulded with love and that together they can change the world. That is the way that I plan to handle the fear.



  1. It seems to be such a horrible world we are living in at the moment.
    What a positive post. I agree with everything you have said.

  2. I hate watching the news. Have a 19 yr old boy and a 17mth old boy. Im frightened for the world they'll grow up in. Im gonna handle the fear by teaching love,compassion and tolerance. And also keeping my fingers crossed, a lot!

  3. This made me cry Emma. It's exactly how I feel. I have never known racism to be as bad as it is now. The thought of leaving the EU and Donald Trump being president scares me as much as terrorism itself. And you are so right, our children are the key to making things better. We must teach them acceptance and understanding.

  4. I wish we could go back in time. Our childhood wasn't perfect but at least the world seemed a lot safer. You mentioned social media and while I'm obviously on it right now I wish it didn't exist. We would have more time for our family, our friends and our children. I went to a play group the other day with my 2 year old and looked round the room and 80% of parents had their phones stuck to their faces. I do it. Not as much as some but it's tempting. I wish it didn't exist so people couldnt spout their judgements at times when all we should feel us sympathy. I wish it didn't exist so sick people couldn't link up with other sick people and become more perverse. I wish it didn't exist so people couldn't be influenced into hate by people they don't know or have never met. Social media isn't responsible for all bad things but I think it's having a blooming good go :(

  5. Totally how I feel! I am in tears, feeling, hopeless and sad and scared for my children! Thank you, you have made a positive post xxx

  6. Thanks for this Emma. I remember the race riots in Brixton when I was a kid, seeing it on the news, I'm 43 now, and as bad as it seems now, it has been worst. A lot worst - listen to Nina Simone's Strange Fruit. All we can do is spread positivity wherever we go.

    Kids are growing up smarter, more informed. I've met some very switched on kids who know they can access the facts anytime.

    I genuinely feel we can improve things. It will be a different, more conservative (not the party!) world, but a more united one in the long run.

  7. My beautiful girl has downs syndrome - she accepts everyone - unfortunately not everyone accepts her - at the moment she is young enough that the sniggers and rejection don't seem to register with her - they register with me! Some Kids snigger a lot of adults generalise "oh downs kids r always so happy and loving" ( no they're not! !!) " they're stupid" (Oh u couldn't b more wrong! ) the list goes on! I wish we could all be more like my daughter Imogen - she stands up for herself, she forgives easily, she loves everyone and everything (if you love her too) and she is so bloody funny!!!!!

  8. So very true. There are so many terrible things happening at the moment and it is a scary world we live in. But we can't live in fear or the terrorists and haters will suck every bit of enjoyment out of life. If we be the best people we can be and teach our children to be accepting, caring and open-minded we will have done our best for our own little bit of the world. And if we all make things better for our own bit of the world, that adds up to a lot of the world! X

  9. Thank you for writing so eloquently what I've been feeling: I have two small innocent boys, who are filled with such love and wonder for everything- and it terrifies and upsets me that this world may destroy that. All we can do as parents is teach them how to love and respect others. X

  10. This is beautifully put and sums up what so many of us are feeling at the moment. I feel like a little bewildered kid myself sometimes hearing about all the awful things that are going on at the moment, every day there seems to be something new and horrific. Fortunately my little one is still quite little (age 4) to be asking what is going on but I know it will come soon and I hope and pray when he does I can tell him in a way that makes it easy for him to understand and not give him as many worries as we, as parents feel at the moment. Thank you BrummyMummy for another fab post x

  11. The world feels like a horrible place at the moment, there's constantly something awful happening somewhere but I'll continue to squeeze my kids every morning & every night & remind them they will always have mummy & daddy to fight their corner x


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