Sunday, 13 January 2019

Shame

Last summer I was fat shamed. It was grim. It was gross. Someone photoshopped me thin. I ended up on a website for people who have a phobia of fat people. I was told I was going to die, whale emoijis were left on my pages. The BBC covered it online. It made the comments worse. I started to worry about what I was eating. If I was out and about in public I was really concerned people were staring at me. My Mum said I should stop and go back to teaching. But I didn't with the support of my family and all you lot I carried on. But yesterday I promoted a healthy meal and was shamed again. This time it wasn't "fat cow". But "disappointed", "eye roll", "doing it for the cash". So I'm shamed for being overweight. Shamed for trying to be a bit healthier. And it begs the question. What on earth am I supposed to do?

Over all of my social media there are around 200K people that follow me. Which is AMAZING. And baffling. And of course at times we aren't going to see eye to eye. Totally understandable. Jeez I struggled to see eye to eye with everyone when I worked in an office with 10 people! But I managed it. I managed not to tell them straight to their face what I thought of them. I managed to not have exceptions of them that were unobtainable. But I am increasingly finding myself in the position now that I have to be a spokesperson for all the women (and the odd lovely man) that follows my journey. And it's unfair. And it's really bloody hard.

Trolls will come and go. There are threads dedicated to how annoying I am. I've been told I need shooting. My kids taking off me. The whole shebang. It's fine. It comes with the job. But there seems to be this weird double standard going on. I am meant to be perfect. But perfect for each and every 200K of you. And whilst the 99.9% (to quote Bridget Jones, and we all know I've got her big pants) like me just the way I am. And I thank all you Mark Darcy's out there (god I LOVE Colin Firth). There seems to be a small portion that don't. That expect me to do everything they want me to do. And are quite vocal and angry when I don't.

Please note. This is not the edited thin photo. LOL!

To go all millennial on your asses (despite not actually being one. I googled it) trigger words for me are "disappointed" "no judgement but". And the insinuation that I am in this career to make a cheap buck. You can say "GOD YOUR VOICE IS ANNOYING" and I will block you or tell you to do one. But you can tell me that I've let you down and it breaks me. BREAKS ME. And whilst I know other people online are like "who cares man move on". For me I do care. As I strive to please everyone. I know my voice is annoying but I also know I do everything in my power not to disappoint people. Perhaps to a fault.

I turn down work every day. Thousands and thousands of pounds. Holidays...and yes last year even two Disneyland Paris trips with brands as I didn't think people would appreciate me going for free when I had already been. And you know I love Disney. My manager wants to kill me as there are rules for my pages. Only two ADs a week on instagram if possible so people get a lot of lovely non branded stuff. Each brand deal is thought about, negotiated, researched, contracts read and amended. It takes weeks. And I totally understand that with some ADs people are gonna be like "hey that is not for me!". That's cool. It's like me watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and an AD coming up for a Bingo site and I think "I would never play Bingo...wish they wouldn't encourage people to gamble".

But then SCREAMING that at the tele. Picking up my phone to tweet it. Finding TLCs instagram and leaving comments about it. I wouldn't do that as I couldn't be arsed. I would just turn over or go on Lisa Vanderpumps insta for a scroll. Also if I did TLC wouldn't care as they are a huge company with loads of employees. It wouldn't be coming straight to their phone whilst they are sat in their pyjamas with their husband. So for 2019 I have made a vow. I am going to be perfect But perfect for me. I'm 41. I'm intelligent. I will not have anyone shame me for the way I look but also for the decisions I make regarding my business. My thoughts and opinions may not be perfect for you. But they are for me. And there will also be that portion of people who read this and think "god this is a bit dramatic". Mate I am dramatic! I film myself flinging prawn crackers across the room every Friday night and SOB when I walk into the Magic Kingdom. And I guess that's why a lot of you like me. Just the way I am.
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  1. Well quite. I saw your ad, though ‘oh that’s not for me ‘ but I liked it because I like a lot of your stuff and I want to support you. Then scrolled on to the next. Why is that so hard for some people, why do they have to take other people down over every single thing. Now if it was a poo inducing lollipop I wouldn’t have ‘liked’ it but I wouldn’t feel the need to stick my oar in about it. ��‍♀️ You go girl xx

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  2. I never understand the whole saga with people doing ads, like seriously, you have to earn a living from this, if it’s an ad I’m not interested in (which is rare to be honest) then I’ll just skip on by it. If you didn’t earn money then how could we live without being able to witness your ever expanding mug, candle and Rae Dunn collections ��

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  3. Couldn't agree more! People way over reacted to that post in my opinion, we all know you have the best intentions at heart and I love the analogy you made about TLC! The internet nakes people think it's okay to.be complete arses and I am glad you're taking a stand against it. You wouldn't put up with it in any other job. Look after yourself bab, and have a great Sunday with your family!

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  4. We love you bridget, you're a good egg. You've got big balls to do what you do and an even bigger heart. Thats why you're loved. F#$k em bridget!

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  5. I feel sad that you even got to the point where you felt you had to write this. The internet has made it way to easy for people to be mean. Keep doing you Emma, it’s the reason why you’re so successful. I do like you just the way you are and feel free to throw some
    Disney brand work my way - jokes....kinda. Lots of love xxx Becka (Beckasbubble)

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  6. Amazing post Brummy Mummy! You’re fab and don’t let any people make you think otherwise! For all the people that make horrible comments (and are clearly not good people!) there are way more people that will say lovely things about you �� ����⭐️X

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  7. Rock on, bab! Working on being perfect for me too, it's difficult but so much better than the alternative of thinking the world hates you and that you need to do better. X

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  8. I saw your WW meal Insta pic and I literally can not understand why that would cause people to feel the need to write some nasty crap. Hope this year you are able to see past the horrible weirdos that right mean shit and keep doing what you're doing because you're amazing ❤

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  9. I love all your content - keep at it gorgeous lady ❤️

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  10. This makes me really sad. The thought you think that some comments come with the job is not ok. It is 2019 and people feel like some level of online bulking / trolling whatever you want to call it should be expected is absolutely heartbreaking. I will never understand why people can’t just let people do their thing, support and be happy. I can k my ssshme people are jealous, and I’m sure the same people who are giving you shit would be first to take the same opportunities if handed to them for the sake of their families and kids too! Keep being you & don’t ever feel like you should justify yourself for anyone. People will unfortunately talk about you whether you do something good or bad, so do what is right for you and know you will always be far better than the person leaving horrible comments just for that very reason. X

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  11. Oh, people can be so horrible. Do I like the diet industry and associated brands? Not really. Have I ever picked up a “healthy” ready meal when shopping? Sure I have! To be honest, I would usually have scrolled past the WW post, but because of the silly comments I went back and liked it! I think people would probably be very surprised if all “influencers” and “bloggers” published annual lists of everything they’ve turned down...and you often mention in your vlogs that you’re sending freebies you’ve been given to the PTA etc. Easier said than done I know, but don’t take it to heart ♥️

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  12. You are flipping lovely! I don't know why people are giving you so much grief! 99% of people I know are trying to be "good" or healthier at the moment after eating and drinking too much over Christmas so why would you be any different?! And we should be thankful that you're getting paid for being healthier too so you can continue to bring us your amazing content! �� Keep up the good work bab!
    PS your voice is in no way annoying! But I'm a black country girl so I can't really comment on accents! ��

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  13. WW do some tasty meals (try the Mac and cheese!!), they’re convenient and a lot healthier than grabbing a sausage and chips from the chippy! Anyone with half a brain cell should know that! Well done you for addrsssing the idiots but do not let it bother you one bit ���� X

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  14. Love you just the way you are and genuinely pleased that you get given these ads to do, wish you could take all of them though without judgement, how amazing would that be xx

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  15. I love all your content, I really wish people realised that you are a real woman not a bloody computer+that vile comments that they make really do hurt! I think the worlds gone kind of mad sometimes- I mean, when I see some of the comments I really do wonder what the hell is going through those peoples minds!! I'm pretty sure that they'd never say it in public to your face so why on earth do they think its acceptable to write it down??!! Emma, I think you're wonderful, you are totally yourself+I think its admirable-you represent us Moms (correct spelling!!) You love your kids, Husband+all your family and I love how you let us into your life. Most of all you make me feel normal!!! 💜💜

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  16. As a fellow Brummie half the people I meet find my voice annoying too! And to match your 'millenial-ism' you do you and live your best life, you're open and honest about your #ADs I see no harm at all in it. So sorry you've had so much rubbish to deal with, these keyboard warriors really should be ashamed of themaelves, I bet they wouldn't have the guts to say even a tenth of what they do on the internet to people's faces xx

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  17. I feel so sad for the world we now live in that people think it's totally acceptable to leave these comments. What you said above about working in an office & not telling people when they do something you don't like, these people wouldn't even consider it so why do they think it's acceptable online hiding behind their phone. Love your page & your love for your kids if it's not for me I'll scroll on past like any normal person. Keep doing what your doing ��

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  18. Keep doing what you're doing. I hate that people think because it's online it's fair game to criticise. It's your job at the end of the day and if people don't like a particular brand or post, why can't they just move on. I wonder if they are so opinionated in their jobs/lives......probably, sadly. Fortunately,although the most upsetting they are also the minority of people who watch/read your work. You are funny,clever and talented lady with a wonderful family. Don't let the
    b@#$%*d's grind you down....Keep going Babs!!!!! X x x

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  19. I wish these keyboard warriers would get a bloody grip of themselves! If all they have to worry about in their lives is brummymummy talking about a WW meal then they need to get a life! If you don't like it or agree with it move on..... keep up the good work bab xx

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  20. This makes me sad that people say these things. I love watching your videos and if I don’t like an ad I move on- whoever’s stories I’m watching! Don’t understand why people have to complain. Try to ignore them (although that is very difficult). The majority love what u do! Xx

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  21. No wise words from me, apart from, Please don't allow other peoples chips on their shoulders to effect you, its their problem. Keep enjoying yourself and creating wonderful memories for your family. xx

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  22. I know what you mean, it's hard not to take those kind of comments personally. While not a public figure like you (ooh get you baby you're kinda famous!) I used to internalise criticism, and wrestle with it, and it cast a shadow over everything I did, made second guess every decision, every picture I post, every move I made. It ate me up, and I lost myself for a bit. I'm so glad you're sticking firm to being just who you are, because you're right, that's why we all love you, read your blog and watch your videos. And let's all pity those people whose reaction to something they don't like is not to simply scroll (online) or walk away (irl), but to make a hateful comment - there is obviously something very wrong with their lives to make them so horrid. We'll embrace our inner Arianna and say 'thank u, next'!!

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  23. Don't let those people get you down. You are a source of absolute joy when I've had a crap day, maybe even a bit of inspiration for me that if teaching doesn't work out, there is still something out there. I love watching your stories, videos, posts and what is most refreshing about you is that you don't post a million ads. But if you did that's cool too. You have to make a living and it is honourable that you are sticking to your principles when you have these opportunities given to you. Remember it's a small portion of that 200k and that you are kick ass mum, smile provider and down right awesome lady to the majority. Thank you for being you and doing what you do x

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  24. I have been following you on YouTube and Instagram for a year or so now and I’m ashamed to say that I have never read blog until today.
    I just wanted to say you are amazing. I know it’s easier said than done to just ignore the wankers but I hope somehow you can. They aren’t worth feeling bad over.
    You bring so many people joy everyday and I hope you know that xxx

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  25. Well said Bab, very well said. It just makes me sad that you had to say it at all. I ❤ you just the way you are. Please please please don't go changing. Lots of love xx

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  26. I can't understand why people waste their time leaving nasty comments. They must have very boring lives. I love all your posts, ad or not. Yours is the first story I check on insta.

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  27. You're brilliant! Love you lots xxx

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  28. Melissa Eggleston13 January 2019 at 08:40

    These trolls are all totally perfect and have the best life?!? Yeah right, jealous, envious and just pure nasty. Take no notice. You keep doing you, you’re doing absolutely fine.

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  29. Hello me again the one who never comments .. emma your like my virtual friend when ever I need a boost I think I’ll
    Pop on insta and Emma will be there with a funny story . You could advertise pants or bikinis and I would support you but you show that just because people put you in a box you can always rip it open and get in a different box .. love you never change ��

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  30. I think it’s really sad that you’ve even had to write this , I don’t unsterstand why people have to comment negatively on anyone’s Instagram account . I personally won’t be rushing out to buy a ww meal but I still liked your post as I know that’s how you make the money to make all the other content we love. I can imagine you get approached for the most ridiculous ad campaigns and have to turn them down ,
    I’m sorry that people of the internet have made you upset at something you believe in , please don’t let them break you , those people are not worth your tears xx

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  31. Very well written but I'm so sad you needed to do it! I have never understood why people can say such horrible things over something so trivial! They would never say these things to your face so why do it online? If I see something I don't like I scroll past, I'd I see a lot of things I don't like I'll unfollow. Easy peasy! Being perfect for you is a great idea and one I'm going to try myself.

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  32. I love you Emma. You’re like a virtual friend who’s always there to pick me up when i’m feeling down or just need a little chuckle, your content always supports me so I shall always support you. You go Glen Coco!

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  33. I'm so sorry that you're experiencing this horrible side of the internet. When I saw your WW ad this week, I automatically thought this isn't for me. I'm vegan which automatically cuts out the number of meals like that you can eat (although marks and spencer does now have an insane about of vegan ready meals) sorry I'm going off topic but all I thought was that's not for me and that's it. We're both very different and I was telling my bf how you're one of my favourite youtubers/bloggers even though I have no kids/family to run/husband etc relate to and I blog about veganism and zero waste. Trolls are awful (i once blogged about my own experience here - https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/sarah-moyes/twitter-trolls-gonna-troll_b_6864054.html - but please keep being you. I LOVE your content and I hope you keep remembering how amazing you are! xx

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  34. I'll probably be the unpopular voice when I say this. Body positivity is great. In some cases it's altered bad eating habits (ie eating disorders), it's given us gals - and a lot of men! - a sense of identity, freedom, and LOVE for our lives and our selves. However. Why has it got to a point where promotion of healthy eating deserves opposition? Is bopo that massive now that anything which doesn't scream "MY (whatever shape/state) BODY is the BEST", is heathen? You advertised a low calorie bloody curry. I love a curry and if it's low calorie, all the better. If you'd posted a picture of a generic ready meal, super high in calories and salt, would you have got this backlash? Absolutely not. You'd have been praised for living your best, unhealthy life. It's great that people are happy with their bodies. Bloody amazing. It's like a massive tribe of humans saying "eff you" to the standards of media, etc. But at the expense of health? I'm not so sure. I understand WW may not be promoting "safe" eating but it is YOUR responsibility to work out what that is. No one else's. If people are so gullible to think that paying X amount to a company is gonna guarantee safe weight loss, maybe step away and step into a bloody gym. Sorry, guys, this reaction has just started a fire in my belly. Emma, I'm one of the few that says: earn that dollar. I realise it's not what matters but at the end of the day it's what helps you live how you live. It's so sad that you have to be shamed. But we're not allowed to shame these people, are we? I hate the term 'snowflake' but I think there's a lot to be said about those unhappy - no, disappointed, raging, unable to keep their mouths shut - about a photo of a bloody curry.

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  35. Hi Emma.
    I saw your ad last night. And I thought bloody hell she's got Stephen involved! Then thought that must have been a hard photo to take with all the holding of everything etc. Then giggled at the bowl!
    It didn't come into my head that it was a WW ad till I actually looked at the packaging.
    As you said it's a quick ready meal that's healthy. I don't get why people are so up in arms.
    Do the ads. Go to Disney! Get as much out of this 'influencer' thing you can. God knows you put enough work in!

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  36. People always say to me that others are negative abput other people's lives because they arent truly happy in their own lives. Its just pure nastiness and uncalled for. Why cant we all love each other... because we are all too different but then thats what people have to accept we aren't all the same and never will be but thrn if we was yhrr shame wudnt life be so shitty and boring. Personally i think your amazing your a mommy and share workin one of that. You have ylur ups and downs like we all do and I like that because it shoes ypur only like us your human. I love your ads as sometimes it reminds me to look at something that had interested me for a while. Keep doing what your doing as i enjoybit everymorning its first thong i do is check your insta. I do think you should write a book as I'm not the only one there's thousands that can relate to you in many way x from one mommy to another...Keep your head high.

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  37. Well said Emma. I think if you don’t like a particular AD then don’t look at it carry on scrolling. That’s what most normal people do. I will always like a and (nice)Comment on your AD’s because I know that helps you make money to continue creating the content we all enjoy. We don’t pay for anything but I feel like that’s my way of giving back to allow you to continue doing this. You should take all opportunists you can because your real supporters will be happy for you that you are getting to do all these cool things! I’m happy if you get a free trip because I think you deserve it. There’s always going to be dicks in this world just ignore them you are doing great xx

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  38. A year ago I might have eyerolled (but would never have said anything). I've always been the girl in the group who was the "jolly" one, as my son once described me. You know, like farther Christmas. But I was also happy in my own skin, for the most part. Then in the middle of last year something happened that made me question my size and lifestyle. Nothing horrible, just my eyes were opened and I needed to do something about it. I've dropped 4 stone since June, I'd still like to loose a bit more, but I'll never be skinny, and won't even hit the official BMI range if I get to MY GOAL. I think the point I'm trying to make is, you have to be happy with you, and if that means one day you hit Costa for a mega hot chocolate and a massive cake and the next day you pull it back with a low fat ready meal (I'm a working mom, I don't always have time to prepare a salad) well that's fine. You're doing what's right for you, and sharing an honest representation of yourself. And along the way you're just letting people know that you're doing your best to be a healthy balanced roll model for your kids. Btw some people will always hate the brummie voice, I'm from the black country so mine isn't much better! :-)

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  39. I love you I love your voice and you give me confidence as although I'm not too bad now I have been bullied about my weight throughout school and therefore it has always been an issue for me but since following you I have learnt to love myself and love my body..plus ylir voice brings me home as although not a brummy my family are from surrounding areas and I was from lichfield like others have said head high big knickers pulled up and we love you bridget xx

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  40. This might sound daft but when ever I see an add off you on Instagram I purposefully like it or try and comment on it even if it’s not something I personally like .... if you don’t get add money you would struggle to create the content I adore ... keep being you Emma x

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  41. It's heartbreaking that you've even had to write this. People need to realise this is your livelihood and at the end of the day you need to have an income. I can't believe you've turned down free trips to Disney - sod what the minority think and next time TAKE THE HOLIDAY! I'm not even a mum and I love your you tube / insta. I think you're a great mum and role model and you shouldn't change a thing about you. xxxxx

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  42. I don’t see everyone’s problem with ads . We scroll past a million on insta and Facebook . We walk past them in the street . People don’t stand around bus stops outraged at the McDonald’s advert slapped on the side of buses trying to cover their eyes like bird box . I’m fed up of these weirdos sat behind a phone telling everyone off online because they don’t have happy lives . Get a therapist . Get a friend ?! Go and have a walk and talk to the trees I don’t care just don’t upset brummy mummy !!!

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  43. It's hard not to absorb other people's negativity and insecurities. Just keep being you, that's why we're all here!xx

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  44. This truly broke my heart that you have had to say these things! You are one of my favourite vlogger/instagrammers for a reason - the honesty you show. And that includes ads too! It's clear you only advertise products you believe in (no poo inducing detox teas! Ha!) and I'm sure if you weren't doing this for an income to support your family you may not do any at all! I love what you do and this you're truly wonderful. Please don't let the bastards win <3 and next time take the bloody free trip to Disney! Xxxx

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  45. It doesn't seem to occur to ppl that a lot *if not most* of your audience probably also occasionally eat ww meals or are trying to lose some weight or try to be healthy during the week and then have a Chinese on a Friday night (me!😜) I'm quite a bit younger than you -I really am a millennial lol - but I think if I knew you in real life I'd quite like to hang out with you and ask you for advice/have a prowl round home bargains/steal some of your midi skirts. I might not agree with everything you say but then I also don't agree with everything my mother or sister says and I love them to bits! it would be a bit creepy/boring if we were all clones of each other?! Just keep doing you, it's no accident that you've gotten so popular doing just that. This is a horribly expressed comment I know but just wanted to share the love xx

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  46. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind ~ one my favourite dr seus quotes! Keep doing what’s right for you and your family don’t listen to people who look for reasons to nit pick.. and don’t turn down anymore free Disney holidays just because your worried people will dislike you.. stick two fingers up to them all and go enjoy yourself! Xx

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  47. Yes!!! I don't get angry when people post about TopShop just cause my big butt and giant boobs don't fit in them! It makes no sense for people to comment on anything that doesn't apply to them! Just get on with it, it takes much more energy to get angry about everything than it does it just let it go. As Jinxx Monsoon would say, water off a ducks back!

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  48. Hey Emma, I was one of the people that commented that I was dissapointed. Let me make one thing very clear; it was NEVER my intention to shame you. I will however ALWAYS voice my opinion about things I feel strongly about. Hell, maybe even try to educate some people. I am in no way implying that I know everything in the world. Hell, I'm just as smart and/or stupid as the people around me. But I have grown up to always stand up for what I believe in. And that means I will express my disappointment at some times. If we don't, nothing changes. I'm not going to go into WW in itself because that needs a completely different discussion altogether. But I will say this: I bloody love your posts, your videos, your personality, and none of that has changed because you posted something I didn't like. But you can simply not expect me to not voice my opinion. Sending you all the love ❤️

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  49. Good for you for speaking out! You’re a rock star. Much love to you and yours.

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  50. No judgment but ... I am disappointed. Disappointed that you had to write this. Human beings are proper shitty at times ��

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  51. People have got so used to getting 'free' entertainment, that they don't appreciate how much bloody work goes in to what you do. Would I do it for free? Hell no - and I don't expect any of the youtubers/bloggers etc that I follow to do it for free either. Do I agree with everything every human does and/or likes, of course not - even the people I have CHOSEN to have have in my life have different opinions about lots of different things. I actually didn't see the ad that you posted - but I don't follow you because we are similar - I am a Brit living in the US and following UK social media bods is kinda of like getting a slice of home comfort every week. So most of the time, things like your hauls at poundland etc are not something I can replicate - but I love seeing what you do and your general outlook on life is refreshing and it gets to be like you see an old friend having laughs and enjoying being a mum - to me that's inspiring. Do I give a crap that one time you did an ad for a trampoline park place in Birmingham that I am never going to go to - of course not (in fact the photos of your lovely hubby enjoying it where the best content that day ;) - I watch them and like them because I know this is also your job. I am so sorry you have to deal with this negativity - honestly I never understand people who troll others - my mantra has always been, be kind. Use the internet to leave a positive comment, lift someone up, make them feel good - because you know, that makes ME feel good - to me, you spread positivity in so many forms and I love you for that. Keep on keeping on Bab - big love, Nicola x

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  52. I am sorry you have had to write this post because people find the internet an easy way to be nasty. Your profile on instagram makes me smile every time I see a new post, you have a gorgeous family and a wonderful attitude to life - we can all aspire to be as smiley in our daily lives! Keep doing YOU xxx

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  53. Please don’t ever think of stopping all your lovely social media platforms. Your a great woman, plus your voice is definitely not annoying. You have a happy upbeat voice and attitude to life. My days are brighter for watching your Vloggs and reading your Instagrams etc. Keep up the terrific work you do, and try to ignore the few horrid people that make nasty vile comments... Keep positive my lovely �� xx Your a Star ��

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  54. Great post Emma!, How disheartening that you even had to write this?, people are so easily offended and it must be hard having so many people to please must be even harder. At the end of the day it's your platform and this is your business, you need to support it financially so a little AD every now and again isn't going to hurt.
    Charlie | www.charlieswonderland.co.uk

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  55. So much love to you! So well written- the trolls need to just shut their mouths and still their fingers from typing out horrible things. I'm looking forward to following you in 2019!

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  56. I enjoy your reality. It's not mine. But we have a similar outlook. And that's what I love to see when I watch you share...

    I don't care about Disney. But I watch and enjoy your excitement. I don't collect mugs. But I collect and love other things, so I watch and empathise and enjoy it. I have my own issues so I'm glad when you discuss yours. ... Even if we're different we can find common threads.

    Some people however, are twisted and bitter and selfish. So they will only watch and see the negative in you, as I see the positive. They will empathise with the "bad bits" where others see good.

    If is not you. It is them.
    It is not for any other reason other than they are not nice and you are and they cannot see the there own horridness.

    It does not make it OK. But it does make You OK! You are OK Emma! You're fabulous! Hi-five to you! And all the strength going forward to see your positivity when you look at others.

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  57. Emma, you are beautiful. Curvy yes. But a beautiful kind of curvy that looks absolutely great in whatever you wear. You had a leopard print skirt on the other day and I wanted to look as good as you in it, and this is coming from someone that’s a size 10/12. Haters will always be there, but you have to not take any notice and push them to the back of your mind. People who hate are lacking in their own lives. And they are jealous, because they would love to be able to do what you are doing. Rather than commend you though, they decide to be mean. Just carry on being you, there are so many more people that like you than criticise you, and that’s a sign that you’re doing something right!! Stay strong, Lots of love, Claire x

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  58. Keep going Bab, do what works for you and your family. And go to disney as many times as you like!!! Xxxx

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  59. Hey Emma!

    I have been reading/watching you for years and I have never posted a comment. Until now!
    I am 25 and live in Canada. I don't have kids and I have yet to find my career path. All this to say, we're not in the same demographic so, naturally, not everything you post I can relate to.

    But do you know why I continue to "follow" you? Because you are YOU! You seem genuine, you ARE funny and you ARE relatable. To all the people giving you a hard time, just remember, they don't pay your bills, they don't have your kids to provide for and they certainly have no business shaming you! Honestly, those people are sad and likely envious of you, your life or both. Just keep being YOU - I know it's easier said than done, but being you is what the majority of your followers love and admire about you!

    Thank you for the years of laughs, the hot tips, being vulnerable, and doing a hell of a job raising the next generation. I appreciate you and I am sorry you are going through a rough time right now.

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  60. But at least you keep your head held high and take it in your stride.

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